The Conversation I REALLY Want To Be Having

Aug 15, 2019

Dear Imaginative Woman,

I went to the woods last week. It was luscious and beautiful. I filled my creative well. All was good.

The week before going to the woods, however, was a particularly rough one. I found myself feeling tired, like deep in my bones tired.

I didn’t have the energy or the motivation to do the things I normally do. I tried hard to get myself to accomplish stuff, but it didn't work. 

I had no idea what was wrong.

I thought my auto-immune system issues...

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What You Need To Make Your Dream Career Happen

Aug 08, 2019

Dear Imaginative Woman,

The women I work with are stuck in careers which are killing their souls.

They daydream about getting windfalls of cash that would allow them to leave their Dull Gray Cubicle (DGC) jobs and pursue their dream careers.

They want to win the lottery. They want a rich spouse or a philanthropist to give them money. They fantasize about an unknown rich aunt leaving them money in her will.

I had all these fantasies, and more, when I was...

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You Deserve To Come Alive

Aug 01, 2019

Dear Imaginative Woman,  

Sometimes, we end up in places in life, like in Dull Gray Cubicle jobs, where it feels like our souls are dying.

Whenever this happens, it's time to come alive again, even if your culture has told you differently.

"Oh well, that's life" might be the refrain you hear whenever you complain about your work misery, but that isn't life.

Life is connection to the beating pulse inside of you, and it comes with the feeling of aliveness.

If you don't feel...

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Is Self-Care Selfish?

Jul 25, 2019

Dear Imaginative Woman,

I'm watching season 4 of Queer Eye this week, and I've been a blubbering mess through each episode. They get me every time!!

I was particularly struck by the first episode, where the Fab 5 made over a high school teacher.

This teacher had devoted her life to the service of others for over 30 years.

She worked late into the night, every night, never taking time for vacations, deep rest, or self-care.

In the episode she said she believed any time...

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The Unexpected Solution To Your Misery & Ennui

Jul 19, 2019

Dear Imaginative Woman,

The first big loss of my True Self happened when I was 10.

I remember being on the playground at recess and talking to some girls.

They asked what I had done over the weekend, and I told them.

I had watched Saturday Morning Cartoons: Gummy Bears, Bugs Bunny, Inspector Gadget. You know, the usual.

I was shocked when they all looked at me with derision. Somehow, over the course of a weekend, cartoons become little kid stuff. They were no longer cool, at all.

I was...

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How To Have a Wildly Authentic Summer Vacation

Jul 11, 2019

Dear Imaginative Woman,

My ideal vacation is sitting in a beautiful spot and reading books for days.

I don't like to do too much driving or activity. I love a full-immersion rest.

My husband, however, loves vacations full of activity. He wants to learn, explore, and be on a full-immersion adventure.

For years, I've done vacations with my husband as big adventures, because once he starts talking about the things we can see in the world, I don't want to miss out on any of it!


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How Shame Made Me Hide My True Self

Jun 27, 2019

Dear Imaginative Woman,

When I worked at my office job, I didn't find much space for being my True Self. 

This was because my main interests were in personal development, the healing journey, philosophy, magic, and mysticism, and I was a database manager.

I had opted into a career where, for the most part, I wasn't able to talk about my interests to the people I was surrounded by 40+ hours a week.

I was in a technical, logical community, when what I craved was magic.

Every day as I...

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A Scaredy Cat Goes On An Adventure

Jun 20, 2019

Dear Imaginative Woman,

Last week I wrapped up my series on how I came to decide to quit my Dull Gray Cubicle job.

I wanted to dive into this decision in a deep way to illuminate just how important reconnecting to your true self is on this journey.

I wasn't able to figure out what I wanted to do instead of my DGC job until I felt at least a tiny bit like myself again.

It was then that I was able to make decisions from a place of authenticity, which is why I've now become a...

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How I Decided To Break Free From My Dull Gray Cubicle Job

Jun 13, 2019

Dear Imaginative Woman,

If you’re new here, welcome! For the past few weeks I’ve been telling you the story about how I decided to break free from my Dull Gray Cubicle job.

You can read all the posts in the series here:

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How I Created Change By Sitting Still

Jun 06, 2019

Dear Imaginative Woman,

If you’re new here, welcome! For the past few weeks I’ve been telling you the story about how I decided to break free from my Dull Gray Cubicle job.

You can read all the posts in the series here:

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Do What You Are Meant To Do


For when you're totally freaking out about being stuck in your Dull Gray Cubicle job forever!!!