The Art of Unapology

May 01, 2020


I was sitting on a green plastic lounge chair.

It was autumn, and I was looking out at a tall meadow of sumac, golden rod, and bee balm.

It was a foggy morning, not quite drizzling. I could hear the birds sing over the low rumble of distant highway noise.

I was especially enchanted by a birch tree at the edge of the meadow. 

I loved her gray-white-papery bark.

I loved her lilting leaves in the breeze.

Though I was seeing the leaves move, it was more like I was hearing...

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Listening to the soft, flowing, wild voice within

Apr 22, 2020

In my quarantine life I am spending a couple months with a dear friend and her family, who live in the woods.

I had planned on visiting her for a few weeks in March to help as she had her second baby.

Quarantine started in the middle of those few weeks, and so we all decided to extend the visit. This is much better than staying in my small apartment in the suburbs that has no yard.

I am grateful - overwhelmingly and incredibly grateful.


While I am here I decided to make a project of getting...

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2 Things That Help During Dragon-Fire Transformations

Apr 03, 2020

I've been having dreams lately where in the dream I ask a question.

I ask - "What is my spiritual practice?"

Whoever I happen to be asking responds by saying - "Mantra. Mantra. Mantra. Mudra."

These are words related to yoga and meditation.

A mantra is a repeated phrase you say again and again. A mudra is a hand position you hold either in meditation or as part of a yoga posture.

Here's how this dream message can be translated - "Repeat. Repeat. Repeat. Hold."


I've gone through a lot of...

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Crossing the Threshold

Mar 20, 2020

Here is a photo of me with my dear friend's new baby.

Babies are amazing threshold experiences, meaning they are experiences where you can mark a clear before and after with no turning back.

There is the day before labor, where everything is one way, and the day after labor, where everything is different.

Joseph Campbell said every story has a threshold, a place the hero embarks on an adventure and life is never the same again.

I've had many threshold experiences in my life.

There was...

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Your Authenticity Is Your Freedom

Mar 13, 2020

Dear Writerly Woman,

Just in case you've forgotten, I want you to know:

You get to write the story you want to write in the voice you want to write it in. 

Your story gets to be short or long. 

It gets to be well-researched or not at all researched. 

You can go for traditional publishing, self-publishing, or no publishing at all. 

You get to write it as a memoir or a novel or a private diary. 

You get to write it on a blog, as a poem, or in a Zine. 

You get to...

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What To Do When You're Worried Your Writing Idea Isn't Serious Enough

Mar 07, 2020

Dear Writerly Woman,

What was the first story you remember loving as a kid?

Mine was Frog and Toad by Arnold Lobel.

In fact, my love of Frog and Toad led me to one of my most egregious acts as a kid. I checked it out of the library and never brought it back!!!

To understand the true impact of this, you must understand that I am an epic rule follower. When I was a kid I got a knot in my stomach any time another kid broke a rule or did something dangerous.

I absolutely did not want to get...

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What To Do When Your Writing Idea Changes

Feb 29, 2020

Dear Writerly Woman,

I went on a road trip last week, driving north through California. I went to a rest stop, and when I got out of the car, I saw a beautiful scene.

The eucalyptus trees were shining in the sun, and there were trees in blossom behind them.

I thought the blossoming trees were cherries, but when I did a little research I discovered they were almond trees. There were miles and miles of blossoming almond farms on my drive.

When I started writing this post, I was going to...

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What To Do When You Don't Know What To Write

Feb 21, 2020

Dear Writerly Woman,


"I don't know what to write."


This is the first sentence I write almost every time I write anything - a post, a blog, a story, a novel, anything.


When I'm looking at a blank page I often don't know what say, but I do know the only way to get past that is to admit it.


I write, "I don't know what to write." 


Then I write some things about my feelings and my day. I write truths. I write about the view out my window or the funny thing...

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What Would Be Easier?

Feb 14, 2020
Dear Writerly Woman,
I grew up in the Boston area, where the culture was super into toughing things out. The tougher you were, the more social points you got. So, even when you could make things a little nicer for yourself or a little easier, you just wouldn't, because that meant you were soft.
But here's the thing about me. I AM soft. I have a tender heart. I don't carry a hard shell around my emotions. I love it when things feel cozy. I always prefer the nice hotel rooms with...
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I Can't Wait To See What You Do Next!

Dec 31, 2019

Dear Writerly Woman,

When it comes to writing, here is what I know for sure:

You get to focus on whatever writing idea makes you come alive.

You get to work on lots of ideas at once, if that is what brings joy to your heart.

You get to focus on only one idea, if that is what makes your heart sing.

You get to do the idea that makes you the most happy, even if it doesn't guarantee financial success.

You get to do the idea that makes you the most interested, even if it doesn't interest your partner,...

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Do What You Are Meant To Do


For when you're totally freaking out about being stuck in your Dull Gray Cubicle job forever!!!